To understand if you might possibly be enabling someone's substance abuse and preventing them from seeking the addiction treatment they need, answer these questions with a "yes" or a "no":
Are You An Enabler? : A Simple Questionnaire
- Do you call in sick for your loved one because they were too hung over to go to work or school?
- Have you ever told a lie to someone to cover up for your loved one's substance abuse?
- Have you had to pay bills for your loved one that they were responsible for?
- Have you ever done someone else's work for them because they failed to complete it as a result of their substance abuse?
- Have you ever paid legal fees for your loved one or bailed him or her out of jail?
- Do you avoid talking you your loved one about their substance abuse because you are afraid of how they will react?
- Have you threatened to leave your loved one because of their substance abuse and then did not follow through on it?
If you answered "yes" to any of these questions, then it is quite possible you are enabling someone's substance abuse problem and standing in the way of them seeking the addiction treatment they need. Addiction is a family disease and denial is a large part of it. Denial of a substance abuse problem happens for both the addict and their loved ones when the issue is not confronted.
Enabling creates an environment in which an addict can comfortably continue to engage in negative and risky behavior without consequences. "Helping" someone means we are doing something for someone who is incapable of doing it for themselves. "Enabling" is doing something for someone when they should have done it for themselves. This will prevent change and a desire to seek addiction treatment.
While enabling is a behavior that loved ones learn for their own emotional survival, it also prolongs the problem of substance abuse. Don't be part of the problem, be part of the solution and help your loved one seek out the addiction treatment they need.
Do You Have A Drinking Problem?
Answering these 20 questions can give you and indication if your drinking habits are safe, at risk for a drinking problem, or harmful. This quiz was developed by the Office of Health Care Programs, Johns Hopkins University Hospital. If you regularly consume alcoholic beverages, this quiz can give you an idea of how your drinking put you into harmful patterns and indicate whether or not you have a drinking problem.
When answering, use the last 12 months as your frame of reference. Be honest with yourself because you can only benefit if your answers are accurate. A drinking problem can lead to more serious problems with alcohol like alcohol dependence and addiction (alcoholism).
- Do you lose time from work from drinking?
- Is drinking making your home life unhappy?
- Do you drink because you are shy with other people?
- Is drinking affecting your reputation?
- Have you felt remorse after drinking?
- Have you had financial difficulties as a result of drinking?
- Do you turn to inferior companions and environments when drinking?
- Does your drinking make you careless of your family’s welfare?
- Has your ambition decreased since drinking?
- Do you crave a drink at a definite time each day?
- Do you want to drink the next morning?
- Does drinking cause you to have difficulty sleeping?
- Has your efficiency decreased since drinking?
- Is drinking jeopardizing your job or business?
- Do you drink to escape from worries or troubles?
- Do you drink alone?
- Have you ever had a loss of memory as a result of drinking?
- Has your physician ever treated you for drinking?
- Do you drink to build up your self-confidence?
- Have you ever been to a hospital or institution because of your drinking?
According to the Office of Health Care Programs, Johns Hopkins University Hospital if you answered as few as 3 of these answers with a Yes there is an indication that you have a drinking problem and your drinking patterns are harmful and considered alcohol dependent or alcoholic. If this is the case for you, then you should seriously consider seeking an evaluation by a healthcare provider or someone in the substance abuse field to discuss your drinking problem.